It might be argued that being a middle aged male who enjoys wearing and posing in stockings and suspenders is not normal. No, it´s not normal. In fact, it´s very far from society´s norm about which sexual roles we should assume. Even in modern western societies which have a liberal view towards same sex marriages, same sex adoptions and sex change operations the idea that someone might like to use the other genders garments for pure fun and sexual gratification is a hard one to fathom, even for the Sexual Rights Organizations* (it´s more easy to them to embrace a person who suffers than someone who simply has fun). In fact, in some places of the world this blog could be an offense that could lead to prison, or worse, death penalty.
So even if my sexual identity is something that i can´t openly acknowledge i´m grateful. Grateful not to be living in Nigeria for example. Or grateful that the Health Authorities in my country don´t see my condition as an mental illness. And that i have the resources to buy my underwear, photograph myself in in it and have the means to publish my thoughts and pictures for everyone to see.
But there´s one more thing i´m grateful for: I feel so fine. In fact, i´m the only person i know who's happy. All around me, friends and family have problems. Depressions, Bi-polar disorder, alcoholism, drugabuse, burnedout-ness, sexual problems, marital quarrels, violent abuse etc. Of course, i had my share of problems too. It´s just some of those things you have to deal with. But quite often it feels like
i´m the only sane person around, and i´m the guy who wears lace panties. Maybe my opportunity to express myself has something to do with it.
I don´t wan´t to give the impression that everything is solved by putting on a suspenderbelt and nylons** but i sincerely think that if you accept yourself as you are and if you give in to your sexual identity you´ll find it much easier to cope with life. Even if i have to wear socks to hide my stockings.
* Yes, the Sexual Rights Organizations have had problems since the start incorporating males just wanting to wear ladies dresses, but since when BDSM-people have made their voices heard it has started to loosen up. And it´s getting better, as more persons with a perspective of queer, nonsexual, polyamourous etc are getting into the debate.
** It is my sincere option that regardless of gender and sexual identity, anyone who get to wear a suspender belt and stockings will get a kick out of it. Anyone who says something contrary is lying.
